Hello from Babyland. I’m glad to be back.
It’s been a wild few weeks here at pixie stix, but I’m happy to say that it’s also been totally amazing, and our pixie is doing great! (see below)
In thinking about what would be my first post A.B. (after-baby), it seemed that the old adage “write from where you’re at” seemed particularly appropriate. So here’s a round up of the best new parenting books I’ve come across, and they all belong within arm’s reach for anyone expecting or recently delivered.
Let me say that I believe there is such a thing as too much reading when it comes to pregnancy and parenting books. Certainly there is no shortage of books out there that seem purposely calculated to overwhelm and scare the bejesus out of anyone who’s new to the baby game. I have found that the best books in this category combine sound advice with a level headed approach, and I completely embrace anything that delivers the above with some humor and honesty. A couple of these books will come in handy a little later on, but are so good they bear mentioning here. Any of these would be a great shower gift, or the salvation of a sleep-starved new parent. Enjoy!
THE BABY BOOK by William M. Sears, M.D. and Martha Sears
978-0316778008; Little Brown; March 2003; $21.95
This is the closest thing you will find to an owner’s manual for a baby. Covering everything from breast feeding to new baby care, and all kinds of parenting advice for both moms and dads, this is the definitive guide written by a husband and wife team who are a pediatrician and nurse respectively. Commonsensical and strongly supportive of the attachment parenting style of childrearing.
THE PREGNANCY BOOK by William M. Sears, M.D. and Martha Sears
978-0316779142; Little Brown; June 1997; $16.95
Written by the same team as THE BABY BOOK above, this book shines at giving grounded, sensible advice that looks at both the changing body and the changing feelings of a pregnant women. Covers everything from nutrition to exercise to picking a birth team. Strikes a better balance between information and advice than its main competition WHAT TO EXPECT WHEN YOU ARE EXPECTING, which can provide a little TOO much information at times.
THE HAPPIEST BABY ON THE BLOCK by Harvey Karp, M.D.
978-0553381467; Bantam; May 2003; $14.00
One of my biggest pre-birth fears was that I was going to get a fussy baby that I would be unable to soothe. This book is the bible for calming fussy babies in the first three months of life, and it is full of practical strategies for tapping into a newborn’s powerful relaxation reflexes. The theory here is that babies need another trimester before they are really ready to take on the world, so for the first stage, they love anything that duplicates their experience of being in the womb. This book is great reading for any soon to be parent.
BE PREPARED by Gary Greenberg and Jeannie Hayden
978-0743251549; Simon & Schuster; June 2004; $13.00
Often times dads are left high and dry when it comes to practical advice for dealing with the chaos a newborn brings to his life. If MacGyver wrote a book for new dads this would be it. Packed with practical information, developmental advice, and delivered mano-a-mano, this book is the perfect gift for the dad to be. My favorite tip: How to improvise a diaper from a tube sock and duct tape.
OPERATING INSTRUCTIONS by Anne Lamott
978-1400079094; Knopf; March 2005; $13.95
There is plenty of ink spilled about all of the beauty and sanctity of the birth process, the sweet names, the lovely showers, and the blissful birth stories. And then there is Anne Lamott, who has written one of the most honest, funny, heart wrenching, and ultimately redeeming books about how goddamn hard it is to survive the first year of single parenthood. At turns painful and uplifting, this is a brave book that makes it okay to admit that new parenthood is a messy, difficult thing. An amazing book.
GREAT LIES TO TELL SMALL KIDS by Andy Riley
978-0452286245; Penguin; January 2006; $11.00
This book is the perfect gift for anyone who appreciates a slightly darker take on parenthood. A totally hysterical litany of great lies that are just credible enough to fake out children. Like, if you put a piece of cheese in the DVD player, you will see a movie about cows. Great new dad gift.
HATCHED by Sloan Tanen
978-1596912779; Bloomsbury; April 2007; $14.95
A totally biting satire on new mommyhood from the author of BITTER WITH BAGGAGE SEEKS SAME. Tanen’s little photographic vignettes, featuring a cast of slightly neurotic fluffy yellow chicks, cast a jaundiced eye on the Eden of the new mommy experience. From the chick who can’t stand to look at one more onesie at her shower, to the exhausted hen who takes co-sleeping to a whole new level by crawling into her son’s crib, this book will have you laughing so hard you cry. “Goonight moon, hello martini!”
HOW TO TALK SO KIDS WILL LISTEN, AND LISTEN SO KIDS WILL TALK by Adele Faber
978-0380811960; HarperCollins; January 1999; $13.95
This book is really for a few years into the parenthood experience, but it is so good, I have to mention it here. This book is a boot camp communication program for teaching parents to effectively talk to their kids without crushing their feelings or creating poor communication patterns. Totally practical, this book is full of role plays, scenarios, and hands on ideas for putting its principles into action. It’s sold millions of copies, and there’s a reason.
THE TAO OF POOP by Vivian Elizabeth Glyck
978-1590302873; Shambala; March 2006; $16.95
This deceptively slight little tome is a wealth of support for new moms stuck at home with a baby. By taking a Buddhist approach, Glyck addresses many of the most common anxieties and stressors of new moms with thoughtful, honest, and supportive ideas about slowing down and being in the moment. Of all of the new baby books I received, I find that I return to this one over and over for reassurance.
THE NO CRY SLEEP SOLUTION by Elizabeth Pantley
978-0071381390; McGraw-Hill; March 2002; $14.95
The number one issue for parents of young children is sleep. Well-meaning strangers ask whether your baby sleeps thorough the night, and it seems at times like you will never get a full night of sleep ever again. Although there are dozens of books out there purporting to have the perfect plan for helping your child sleep, this book is head and shoulders above the rest for helping parents solve sleep problems with love and without harsh “cry-it-out” techniques.
SHE’S HAVING A BABY–AND I’M HAVING A BREAKDOWN by James Douglas Barron
978-0688158255; HarperCollins; June 1998; $11.95
Whereas women will happily read a pile of pregnancy books taller than the bed, many men want their information short, sweet, and bite-sized. They want all the good bits with no fluff. Well, this is the book for them. Concise and remarkably honest, the tips in this book are all numbered and broken into three sections– one for each trimester. As the title suggests, there is a healthy sense of humor here, but the information is excellent and delivered in the style of a best friend who is sharing his hard won knowledge. Great gift for the expectant dad.
COOL NAMES FOR BABIES by Pamela Satran and Linda Rosenkrantz
978-0312304393; St. Martin’s; August 2003; $9.95
Go to any bookstore with a parenting section, and you will see a shelf of baby naming books with titles like 50,001 BEST BABY NAMES, and 100,000+ BABY NAMES. But as anyone who has had to do it will tell you, finding a good name is really about quality, not quantity. This little book is a fun read, and does a great job of taking a fresh look at the baby naming game. With tons of offbeat lists like color names, music names, coolest cowboy names, coolest hero names, and an explanation of why names like Ivy are cooler than Ivana, this book is great for sparking a creative discussion of the future baby’s nome de plume.
And last but not least….. here’s our little pixie now.
She’s a blast.